Can people really..

Amenat · Post by **Amenat** » Tue Jul 24, 2007 7:47 am

Can people really sense things wrong or odd with others?

I've been wondering this a lot. Ever since the person I loved left.
Through my high school career I've never really been considered a 'girl' when I tried to be 'girly' no one would take to me. Especially my friends. A class clown thought it was scary that I actually wore makeup to school and told me so.
Another guy friend I was talking to, about month before school got out this year, told me that he 'wouldn't consider me a woman'. I wanted to ask why but he couldn't tell me anyway.
Could it be that I am really a guy?
I dunno I'm confused..

Post by **Soran Nightblade** » Tue Jul 24, 2007 10:31 pm

Your friend wasn't very considerate of your feelings when he said that, but I wouldn't take it too much to heart. If your mannerisms are normally tomboyish, it may make people surprised when you do something out of character like wear makeup. I'm sure people who wear it all the time get the same reaction when they go natural for a day. When you try to act 'girly', is it possible that it seems unconvincing to others because your idea of 'girly' isn't really you? Why act to impress others? On the other hand, if you sense that there's something in your normal behavior that others dislike, and you want to improve yourself, that's fine. You can be a better person without acting like someone you're not. Mm...does that help?

Airen · Post by **Airen** » Tue Jul 24, 2007 10:31 pm

I don't think you're supposed to be a guy... lol... I just think that it's not the way they're used to seeing you dress and act, maybe...

Amenat · Post by **Amenat** » Tue Jul 24, 2007 11:06 pm

The only thing I do different when I try to act more feminine is stuff like wearing a skirt. I never seemed to have any time to put on make up or anything that my class mates seem to have.
When I do try to act more feminine it's usually just putting on a skirt and some basic make-up (foundation, mascara, light eye shadow) nothing fancy.
Maybe I should upload my pictures and see what you guys think..

Airen · Post by **Airen** » Tue Jul 24, 2007 11:11 pm

I don't know.. That's up to you... I just believe that if you are a girl, you are meant to be a girl...

Vairah · Post by **Vairah** » Fri Jul 27, 2007 11:15 pm

I'm actually in a similar situation, to the point that some of my guy friends are asking me (jokingly) when I'm going to get a sex change. It isn't intended as an insult; I just realized that those guys tend to take things at face value, so to them, girl who doesn't dress like girl = more guy than girl. I just don't think about it much (and then scare the bejeezus out of everyone when I wear a skirt. It's a perk). So don't take it too seriously.

Amenat · Post by **Amenat** » Tue Aug 07, 2007 10:58 am

Lol, Vairah, I guess you'd understand then. I feel better that someone else is in the same situation. My guy friends think that it would be a waste if I got a sex change but, in Vairah's situation, I'd laugh at those guys.

Kastor · Post by **Kastor** » Thu Aug 09, 2007 12:58 pm

hi

here's some insight for you...

especially when you're in highschool.. all your guy friends will see you as a friend and for the most part very few of them will be comfortable "hanging out" unless they see you as one of the guys. Overcoming being "one of the guys" is a tough thing to do. My advice (me being a guy an all)... just do what makes you feel comfortable, they'll eventually get used to the fact that you're not "one of the guys" and will hopefully respect you a wee bit more and hey, you may be able to get away with alot more

anywho... good luck - it generally all stops when you're in college and there aren't any preconceived ideas about how you're meant to dress.

hah! i wore a skirt once

okay maybe twice and i'm more of a man than the guys i know